Sometimes we protect the rules by breaking them.

If this were always true, then there would be no rules. No point in making them anymore.

If this were never true, then nothing would change. Especially what needs to.

As concepts go, this is one that requires the truth being somewhere between always and never.

The happy medium is not halfway between the two, however, but somewhere closer to true about 5-10% of the time. For transgressing the rules to be valuable, we have to do it sparingly.

Transgressing is supposed to be difficult, counterintuitive, and lead to undesirable outcomes. So that when we do it, we not only get what is at stake, we help each other realize what we should’ve known all along.