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Sometimes They Do Equal 5

I do think that sometimes 1+1=5.  That doesn’t make me crazy.  It means that we ought to account for our own blind spots.  To help me explain, I’ve recruited my own daughter.

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As you can see, she has written an interesting equation on the white board.  She is so proud of it, she wrote it over and over again:

1=1+1

People fall into two camps when they see this:

Stern Father: She has written an incorrect equation and it must be corrected, otherwise she is likely to make it again.  We must drill it into her brain that 1+1=2, not 1!  She must also learn the proper order of placing the two numerals at the beginning!  We don’t want to raise an idiot!

Nurturing Parent: She is exploring her understanding of numbers and symbols.  From this equation, she clearly does not understand basic arithmetic, but what 3 year-old does?  It is developmentally appropriate for her to play this way, because eventually she will get it.

 

007I am a nurturing parent and tend to take this view, but I’ve been questioning one thing that both of these responses take for granted: that 1+1 always =2.  The unspoken truth in our worldly systems is that they are created by adults and we demand our small children be indoctrinated into them.  Arithmetic is incredibly useful and I don’t suggest we should change anything about it.  What I’m saying is that it is ours and we demand our children adapt to it at a very early age.

The second thing is that when we adopt an understanding that children can teach us something (a theory repeated several times in the gospels by Jesus, mind you), we might wonder when we’ve been wrong.  When does 1+1 not =2 or when might 1+1=5?

When looking at the white board, it appears as if my daughter has written a pretty fascinating equation:

1 = 1 + 1
1 = 1 + 1

1=1+1=5=0

If we cast off the eyes that see only gibberish, but eyes that see encouragement, we might take an interesting idea.

What if our understanding of 1 is of the individual?  We begin by presupposing that everything around us is built on us, the 1.  So what happens when we add another person?  We get a much bigger number, beyond exponential growth (5).  But we also get nothing (0).  Is there anything more profoundly existential than that?  As individuals we can become community or nothing.

Or what if 1 represents unity: the coming together of individuals as 1?  In this way 1+1 certainly does = 1, just as 200 million + 200 million equals 1.  We can be stronger than we really are (5) or powerless (0) depending on how we treat each other.

Of course I’m not so deluded by my daughter’s genius to believe that she regards these symbols as you or I would.  But I refuse to ignore the existential truth revealed in her play.

If we are being honest to what truth actually is, without coloring it through the prism of patriarchal authoritarianism, we would recognize the wisdom of children and that truth is truth, regardless of who reveals it.  And perhaps the greatest truth revealed by my daughter is that our system of differentiation may inevitably lead not to unity, but to failure.

3 responses

  1. Well you are remarking on a characteristic that I describe liberal thinking. Liberals operate predominantly on feelings and emotions whereas most conservatives operate on facts and logic.

    A conservative would say that 4+1=5 a liberal would say who are you to try and cram your ideas down my throat, i say 4+1=6 and my ideas are just as important as yours. We can’t communicarte because we come from a whole different world view and I have not found a common denominator for liberals and conservatives to communicate and problem solve together.

    John Wilder

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      Drew Downs

      Thanks for the comments, John!

      You are quite right about there being division. The two concepts I referred to were borrowed from George Lakoff who describes the two paradigms as Stern Father and Nurturing Parent. It is quite an interesting model that is fair to both people’s beliefs and the world in which they were raised.

      As for the communication problems, my own guess is that liberals and conservatives have trouble because of shorthand. We like to stretch what the other is saying while also obscuring our own stuff. I have been thinking about this for a post, actually. It goes a little like this. With abortion, for instance, both sides describe what they are for (“pro-____”) but hide what they are against. Neither group willingly claims the “anti-___” designation, but it is necessarily part of the conversation.

      In this example, like most, I don’t think it is one way or the other. Both sides are using demonstrable facts and emotion. It seems to me to be about priorities. This was really clear in the debate several years ago about abstinence-only education. Statistically, under that educational model, teen sex went down, but unprotected sex went up, as did teen preganancy and STD concerns. The conservative priority was to not promote sexual activity, period. The liberal priority was to limit the negative outcomes of sexual activity. In truth, neither side is wrong. I’d say they are both morally upstanding positions that have real world consequences.

      My own thinking was about how easy it is for us to get stuck in the model we know and not see another way of looking at it, particularly if the person is seen as lesser or ignorant. I always appreciate your thoughts.

  2. looking at it, particularly if the person is seen as lesser or ignorant. Boy you really hit the nail on the head. I find that most conservatives are willing to debate libs and show a certain amount of respect. I find that overwhelmingly lib denigrate conservatives and show a great deal of arrogance and condescension while describing us as stupid, uneducated, rednecks anti choice etc. For the record I am most definitely ANTI choice on abortion, just like I am anti choice on child abuse, murder, sexual abuse, rape, robbery etc.

    The liberal view taken to its logical extreme would say that I can sexually abuse my daughter because it is none of your business, it is my daughter and my home and what we do in my home is none of your business. In fact the is an organization called NAMBLA whose sole purpose is to lobby congress to
    legalize sex between men and boys. I know it sounds wierd but google it and BTW they have the same 501c3 status as a church. Wierd huh?

    John Wilder

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